In This Skin

In This Skin

Today I say goodbye to my 20’s as I welcome a new chapter in my life. Today is my 30th birthday.

I became a mother almost 2 years ago. Along with questioning whether I could be a good wife and mom, I started to struggle with being comfortable within my own skin. Most new mothers can relate to the struggle to lose our post baby weight. On top of that, my hair texture completely changed from loose curls to tight kinks, curls and coils which was much harder for me to manage since I wasn’t used to it. I developed stretch marks, etc. Frankly, I did not feel beautiful or confident in myself or my abilities. Society’s perception of beauty and body after baby didn’t help to alleviate my anxieties one bit.

I began my transition back to natural hair in May 2009. A combination of transitioning and pregnancy gave me a whole new hair type to learn how to work with.

However, something amazing happened to me this year. I started to become more centered within my faith. This caused me to focus more on God and my identity within Him. I started to focus less on others and their perceptions of what is beautiful. “If your first concern is to look after yourself, you’ll never find yourself. But if you forget about yourself and look to me, you’ll find both yourself and me.” (Matthew 10:39).

Once I shifted my focus I started to feel a peace within myself. I started taking better care of myself spiritually which started a snowball effect into other aspects of my life. I started exercising more regularly and eating much healthier as well. My anxieties started to diminish and I started to have a more positive outlook on myself and life in general. I began to define my own standards of beauty and not rely on society’s body image and beauty views. I realized that God gave me a new start, a new chapter. My old life has now been left behind and I needed to welcome this change.

My new life now included a husband that encourages me in all that I do. My new life also included an energetic, charismatic and playful son that keeps me on my toes. Yes, I have stretchmarks but they are a badge of honor for the beautiful life I carried and delivered into this world after 27.5 hours of labor & no meds). I started to embrace all of my 5’9 curvy body and every last curl, kink and coil on my head. My struggles and triumphs sparked a passion in me to help others in any way possible. I launched my lifestyle blogging career to continue to do just that.

I am now confident in my role as a wife and mother. I believe in my abilities as a writer/blogger. I accept that I am beautiful in my own unique way. Today I celebrate not only my birthday but a rebirth of me. I am now confident in my own skin, just the way God intended me to be.

Photography by: Daniel Racz (@girlswcurls)


Hair: Bee Mine Organics – Botanical Moisturizing Shampoo, BEE•U•Ti• FUL Moisturizing Deep Conditioner, Bee Hold Curly Butter.

Shorts: H&M

Blouse: Nordstrom

Shoes: Converse

Earrings: The Wrap Life

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