I Don’t Love My Kids Equally: The Reality of Motherhood After Baby Number 2

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When I found out I was pregnant with baby number 2, I was ecstatic! They would be close in age, be each other’s confidant and hopefully best friends for life. Naturally, we worried whether our older son would be receptive to his new baby brother. That feeling didn’t last long as it became clear to us that he would be fine due to his protective and nurturing personality. motherhood, bossmom, bossmomnation, munamommy, parenting magazine, healthyhairtotoe, targetbaby, cat and jack, dress the bump, bumpstyle, pregnancy fashion, how to prepare child for baby number 2, natural hair, pregnancy fashion, toddler fashion, old navy style, baby number 2, pregnancy, maternity style, mommy bloggerAs my due date approached, my worries started to shift onto myself. Was I capable of showing love for my sons equally? Would my oldest son feel like he was being replaced? What if the baby felt neglected due to me overcompensating with his big brother? Mom guilt was REAL! I now realize that while I love both of my boys, I don’t love them in the same way and that’s perfectly fine!

Naturally, we worried whether our older son would be receptive to his new baby brother.

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If you have siblings, do your parents tell you they love you all the same? Hate to break it to you but it’s not possible. The truth is you cannot love your children exactly the same. I’m 1 of 5 children so I’m speaking from experience here! I also asked my dad so that helps a ton too..lol!motherhood, bossmom, bossmomnation, munamommy, parenting magazine, healthyhairtotoe, targetbaby, cat and jack, dress the bump, bumpstyle, pregnancy fashion, how to prepare child for baby number 2, natural hair, pregnancy fashion, toddler fashion, old navy style, baby number 2, pregnancy, maternity style, mommy bloggerWhether you have 2, 3 or 10, all of your children will have different personalities. They’ll have different likes, dislikes, wants, needs, etc; across the board! You’ll connect with each child differently but the love will still be there. Imagine my shock when I realized baby number 2 loves sweets & veggies unlike his big brother…I almost fell out of my chair!..lol.

Now, don’t get me wrong. Favoritism is a real thing. Long-term favoritism can have damaging effects into your LO’s adult years. We as parents need to be mindful of how much attention and affection we’re giving our kids daily.

One of the most important things you can do for your children is love them the way they need you to rather than how you think you should love them. 

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Are you expecting baby number 2 or thinking about adding to your tribe? You may want to keep this in mind. Don’t beat yourself up and do the best you can to see your children as individuals. One of the most important things you can do for your children is love them the way they need you to rather than how you think you should love them. motherhood, bossmom, bossmomnation, munamommy, parenting magazine, healthyhairtotoe, targetbaby, cat and jack, dress the bump, bumpstyle, pregnancy fashion, how to prepare child for baby number 2, natural hair, pregnancy fashion, toddler fashion, old navy style, baby number 2, pregnancy, maternity style, mommy blogger

Can you relate? How has becoming a parent of two or more changed your perspective on parenthood? Let’s chat below!

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